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Diva Status

On my desk sits a card my husband gave me that reads, “Sometimes she found it necessary to release her inner WARRIOR DIVA.” Mark added to the caption in his own handwriting, “I had no idea what was inside you, but I sure am glad I have the rest of my life to find out. Let’s go to the moon! Let’s exhaust life’s potentials. Let’s die living!”

Life is good when your husband encourages you to own your inner diva and doesn’t exit the building! Isn’t it interesting that the word “Diva” has so many negative connotations? In a world where were coined the phrase Bridezilla having witnessed spoiled demandsters, “Diva” has gotten a bad rap. However, Webster Dictionary defines diva as: a highly distinguished female singer; prima donna; goddess.

Have you been holding back from belting out your inner “Warrior Diva” for fear of eyes rolling, and being judged? Has your inner moxie been shut down, because some one doesn’t get you?

I invite you to take a big leap into something scary like I did this past weekend. I invested in myself by playing big and joining one of the best mastermind groups out their with others serious about bringing their greatness to the world. Bring your “Diva” out into the open; nurture her greatness; let her shoot for the moon; exhaust life’s potential; and give it your biggest shot. You will never thrive by playing small.

How will you tap into your inner voice, play big and release your inner “Diva”? Email me to sign up for a Strategy Session to see how you can move forward today.

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Are You MIA?

 Many women spend great amounts of energy looking for their Mr. or Mrs. Right as if on a reconnaissance mission, while the person that is really missing in action is themselves.

As a eager young married woman in my early twenties, I thought I needed to be everything my husband wanted. While not possessing a strong sense of my own identity, I strived to become a cookie cutter, Mrs. Perfect.

Although I was married to an incredibly wonderful man, the issue of identity wasn’t something my husband could give to me. After Bill lost his battle with cancer, I began to reconnect and accept the wild-hearted woman I had abandoned along the carbon copy road.

The seven years of being a widow and single mom, gave me the opportunity to face myself head on. Like Dorothy on her trek to Emerald City to see the OZ, no one could give to me what was already resident within myself. I had to find my own way home to my authentic self.

It was during this season that I became reacquainted with the woman I set aside, while serving an illusion of who I believed I was “supposed” to be. Now when I coach women who have surrendered their authentic voice, we begin in the most obvious place, at home.

It was when I possessed my own inner strength that I met my husband Mark and remarried. And there has been no stronger supporter in encouraging me to live from my true voice and moxie.

Real men want women to speak and live from their authenticity. When a man is secure within himself, he doesn’t need, or want a parrot. He will be attracted to the wild-hearted girl resident within you, not a girl whose fire has been doused by duty and performance. Secure men want a partner who has something to bring to the relationship, not a house keeper lacking vision.

If you want to attract your mate, don’t try to be everything you think someone wants. Be the authentic person that you truly are. If you’re waiting for someone to make you come alive, you are MIA and have abdicated your true self.

Uncover your true heart beat and honor it. The journey for your authentic self begins at home, so why not make it a glorious celebration! How will you give yourself permission to live from your untamed heart?

Drama Oh Drama, You Are No Queen!

Let’s face it, we all know at least one drama queen who is an energy zapper! I’m not talking about people in the performing arts. I am referring to the dear souls that feel out of sorts unless chaos and mayhem are swirling around their feet. They carry their own personal tornado where ever they go, unbeknownst to those who unwittingly open the door to the torrential down pour that follows!

Depicted on sitcoms, they often get a chuckle out of us, but truth be told they aren’t so funny. The problem with these attention grabbers is the magnitude of wasted energy. Imagine if the energy spent on the sheer flare for the dramatic was funneled into something important like ending world hunger!

Drama queens thrive on the adrenaline of their current “story” and don’t seem to know how to channel their focus elsewhere. And just imagine the ineffectiveness of entrepreneurs with this tendency.

I guess most of us could be accused of being a drama queen if the right scenario warranted. Yet, I’d rather leverage drama, or any other capacity I might have in the most effect way possible. How about you? I have two tips for serial drama queens.

Tips Concerning Drama Queens

1. When dealing with an energy exasperating drama queen, boundaries are not an option. They are a necessity! I know some of you think boundaries are a four letter word. However, there is no Mother Teresa award for being pulled under by the riptide of dramatic chaos. Drama Queens will suck your tank dry if you allow. You can’t fix a drama queen! They must want to help themselves.

2. If you are a drama queen first of all we want you to know that we love you. But please do everyone a favor by making the important choice to abstain from the merry-go-round, and become intentional about rehabilitation. Believe it or not, you can learn to say “No” to the drama!

Our suggestion: put in place a support system that will hold you accountable and help you tap into peace, and a drama free life.

Remember healthy people press into the discomfort of change, because they choose the benefit of growth. So if you’re one of our beloved drama queens we suggest you invest your energy in starting a foundation for a drama free life, get some help, and turn up the music and sing the theme song, No More Drama.

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Help for “Good Girls” Who Want to Go Rogue

Living in California I am often reminded of one of my favorite philosophers, Dr. Seuss. I am certain that Seuss drew much of his inspiration from the natural California terrain that shows off trees with giant, upside-down-trumpet blossoms, and caricature palms that seem to dance in the breeze.

There is nothing routine, or ordinary about these marvels. Every time I pass a trumpet tree, or childlike palm my insides light up and do a dance. The thing is as creative as Seuss was, he simply captured those images in his stories. He didn’t create them. Imagine the creativity that exists among us.

Dr. Seuss gave us some good advice in his admonition, “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

Have you ever noticed that his advice isn’t always so simple? Who doesn’t want to be free to live into the massive creativity that exists within each of us? Yet most of us have “things” that hinder us and get in the way like, Thing One, and Thing Two in Seuss’ Cat in the Hat!

One of our “Things” might come under the heading of “Good Girl Syndrome.” Many women struggle with that “Thing.” Just being reminded of the mess Thing one and Thing two created can make a “Good Girl” nemesis shudder!

Isn’t it amazing how we often allow structures and people to contain and define us, instead of creatively defining ourselves? To help move out of the “Good Girl Syndrome” and tap into a more creative, unhindered you, ponder these questions:

1. If you close your eyes and imagine yourself going rogue- moving outside of any limiting thinking that holds you back, what do you see?

2. What is the most liberating and childlike thing you can do to tap into your version of brilliance, be it childlike trumpet trees, swishy palms, or business finesse? 

3. How are you denying yourself permission to tap into your most brilliant, creative self?

4. Where do you need to establish boundaries and implement the word, “no” to creativity stealer’s?

5. How would you like to go rogue and redefine yourself today?

Consider these questions and put a fun action around them to jump start a more creative, vibrant YOU!
Share the fun, creative, assignments you give yourself here on the blog!

Other fun resources to spark your creativity are books by the author SARK. Her childlike colored text spurs on creativity and self-permission to reconnect to child’s play. Check out Succulent Wild WomanJuicy Pens Thirsty Paper, Make Your Creative Dreams Real, and many other titles.

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